Lemonnism

While I'm taking gender psychology now, there has been lots of fun stuff I've read about in the textbooks. One chapter titled "The Gendered Family", in which I found pretty interesting statements in the section "Gendered Parents, Gendering Children". This is the beginning of the section:

" Another cause of the decline in marital happiness is, surprisingly, children. Children tend to put a damper on marital bliss. Couples who remain childless report higher levels of marital satisfaction than do those with children."

Surprise? Nah, not a surprise for me though. I forgot since when I've already had the thought of not having a child in my life. My belief is that marriage should belong to solely the couple, if, the purpose of getting married is to prove your love and have commitment to each other, not to have children and raise them together. If children would decrease your marital happiness, then what is the purpose to have a child? To inherit your genes? To expect the child to accompany you when you get old? But before that you could've lost the happiness you want from your marriage.

Perhaps this is the way it is. Marital happiness turns out to be family happiness gradually through the life course. But then why, why some married men and women still have an afair with someone else? Unless you're very sure that your partner is faithful to you, don't have children after getting married. Or, don't even get married...marriage is just a paper work that proves nothing. Yet nobody's ever sure about anything. I thought I've had faith in one man, but he failed us whatsoever! And the result? Children are the victims under the spoiled marriage. Or, couples could be the victims too. So why kidding?